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What is it about the open relationship that is so appealing to some people?

It has come to the three asian fags attention that there are an unorthodox number of open relationships that exist in the san francisco bay area. Quite a bit as a matter of fact. Of the last few dates some of us have been on, at least half of them have somehow ended up being in an open relationship. This has alarmed us quite a bit and so we will now discuss the pros and cons of phenomenon.

If you are in an open relationship you have the freedom of being able to date whom you wish however you are partnered to one person. How can this be? This came up in a discussion of gay men and straight women at a recent July 4th BBQ. We came to the conclusion that a relationship of this type works in the way one thinks about sex. If sex, in this case, is thought of as a recreational activity then it would be perfectly sane for someone to have an open relationship of this type.

Lets say sex were like tennis. If you have a committed doubles partner whom you are teamed with, it would be perfectly fine for you to pair with another person from time to time as long as your permanent partner were told in advance and that it was accepted. It would be acceptable for you to play other games with other people and practice how you see fit. However, if it were an important tournament or some other function which it would not be prudent to be without your original permanent partner, then it would not be ok for you to be with someone else in that instance.

This subtle nuance of teamship is how some open relationships seem to work. The idea that in some instances sex is simply recreation and to which one can do it with whomever, as if it were just sporting, yet also to think of sex in a more noble way in which it is sacred and full of pomp and circumstance such as a tournament in tennis, where the original partners remain intimate in that respect.

However, being asian, we ease drop and hear many different tales in this city. So, i recant an instance where the openness of the relationship extends to the sacred realms. The barriers of sex no longer are concrete where we separate recreation from passion, instead the barrier does not exist at all. These couples have relationships while they are in relationships. This is what confuses us the most.

There are other issues with open relationships. For instance, some people are very jealous, yet allow their union to be open. In these cases they enact the "don't ask don't tell" policy which creates an "ignorance is bliss effect". Though this may seem silly, it has been happening for centuries. From the noblest families to the lowest of the low, the ideal of keeping appearances in relationships and may i be so bold as to say, "having your cake and eating it too" has run rampant in society. These types of relationships have been going on and on and on. It is the logical conclusion of those who no longer wish to cheat, but are defeated into thinking that they could not help but to cheat. Of course if you ask those in open relationships the philosophy becomes a nobler one. Instead, it is not that cheating is the issue, instead it is the idea that a relationship can be hinged on such a base action as sex that is in question in their minds. Relationships are more transcendent than such sensual desires as sex. Who cares that we have sex with other people, we are better than that to let such a thing come in between us.

And to this I say... true.

Love should not be so base. Yet, I will have to put my two cents in now.

To me, in my obviously undeveloped idea of what a relationship should be, a relationship is a commitment between two people toward an end. That end, in most respects, is to support and be there for each other through the good times and bad in order to foster a commradary than can withstand all obstacles. However, for a commitment to be withstanding in my traditional view , requires a covenant between the members. That covenant is the exclusivity of sex with no one but the partner. It is this covenant that shows the sacrifice the participants are willing to take to create and forge forward with their relationship.

Yet, I digress

For the slutty nature in us all returns to this open relationship idea, since it is so appealing. When i date someone in an open relationship there is a strange sadness I feel sometimes for the other person in the party. True, they too probably are getting their kicks with someone else, but one has to wonder if they really are.

The Three Asian Fags are currently not in the mind set to pursue open relationships, we rather just be single and available until the time we find that person we can commit too. The idea of the open relationship is still to convenient for our delicate sensibilities. It seems too much like settling than it does anything else. Perhaps we will be enlightened one day, or perhaps they will be enlightened to our standards. Whatever the case, it makes a very good topic to ramble on about.


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What is it about the open relationship that is so appealing to some people? It has come to the three asian fags attention that there are an unorthodox number of open relationships that exist in the san francisco bay area. Quite a bit as a matter of fact. Of the last few dates some of us have been on, at least half of them have somehow ended up being in an open relationship. This has alarmed us quite a bit and so we will now discuss the pros and cons of phenomenon. If you are in an open relationship you have the freedom of being able to date whom you wish however you are partnered to one person. How can this be? This came up in a discussion of gay men and straight women at a recent July 4th BBQ. We came to the conclusion that a relationship of this type works in the way one thinks about sex. If sex, in this case, is thought of as a recreational activity then it would be perfectly sane for someone to have an open relationship of this type. Lets say sex were like tennis. If you have a committed doubles partner whom you are teamed with, it would be perfectly fine for you to pair with another person from time to time as long as your permanent partner were told in advance and that it was accepted. It would be acceptable for you to play other games with other people and practice how you see fit. However, if it were an important tournament or some other function which it would not be prudent to be without your original permanent partner, then it would not be ok for you to be with someone else in that instance. This subtle nuance of teamship is how some open relationships seem to work. The idea that in some instances sex is simply recreation and to which one can do it with whomever, as if it were just sporting, yet also to think of sex in a more noble way in which it is sacred and full of pomp and circumstance such as a tournament in tennis, where the original partners remain intimate in that respect. However, being asian, we ease drop and hear many different tales in this city. So, i recant an instance where the openness of the relationship extends to the sacred realms. The barriers of sex no longer are concrete where we separate recreation from passion, instead the barrier does not exist at all. These couples have relationships while they are in relationships. This is what confuses us the most. There are other issues with open relationships. For instance, some people are very jealous, yet allow their union to be open. In these cases they enact the "don't ask don't tell" policy which creates an "ignorance is bliss effect". Though this may seem silly, it has been happening for centuries. From the noblest families to the lowest of the low, the ideal of keeping appearances in relationships and may i be so bold as to say, "having your cake and eating it too" has run rampant in society. These types of relationships have been going on and on and on. It is the logical conclusion of those who no longer wish to cheat, but are defeated into thinking that they could not help but to cheat. Of course if you ask those in open relationships the philosophy becomes a nobler one. Instead, it is not that cheating is the issue, instead it is the idea that a relationship can be hinged on such a base action as sex that is in question in their minds. Relationships are more transcendent than such sensual desires as sex. Who cares that we have sex with other people, we are better than that to let such a thing come in between us. And to this I say... true. Love should not be so base. Yet, I will have to put my two cents in now. To me, in my obviously undeveloped idea of what a relationship should be, a relationship is a commitment between two people toward an end. That end, in most respects, is to support and be there for each other through the good times and bad in order to foster a commradary than can withstand all obstacles. However, for a commitment to be withstanding in my traditional view , requires a covenant between the members. That covenant is the exclusivity of sex with no one but the partner. It is this covenant that shows the sacrifice the participants are willing to take to create and forge forward with their relationship. Yet, I digress For the slutty nature in us all returns to this open relationship idea, since it is so appealing. When i date someone in an open relationship there is a strange sadness I feel sometimes for the other person in the party. True, they too probably are getting their kicks with someone else, but one has to wonder if they really are. The Three Asian Fags are currently not in the mind set to pursue open relationships, we rather just be single and available until the time we find that person we can commit too. The idea of the open relationship is still to convenient for our delicate sensibilities. It seems too much like settling than it does anything else. Perhaps we will be enlightened one day, or perhaps they will be enlightened to our standards. Whatever the case, it makes a very good topic to ramble on about.